Gay, straight or anything else, getting to grips with your sexuality can be tough, especially when there are people’s feelings and reactions that might disrupt or change your life forever. Battling with their own sexuality, these stars have been through everything – they’ve bullied people about their sexuality just to cover up their own secrets and one of these stars even tried to kill himself as a teenager because he couldn’t cope with his sexuality. Now, they finally feel comfortable as people who have come to terms with whatever orientation they identify with and they’re proud to be the people they are now. Here is what these 5 celebs have said on struggling with their sexuality.
Amanda Seyfried
Amanda couldn’t wrap her head around her own sexuality: “For a long time sex didn’t interest me at all. I just couldn’t connect with my body. I didn’t think that I was pretty; I thought I was ugly, and I had no self-confidence. When I was a teenager I was really unhappy and confused. There’s no advice on your computer that helps you deal with adolescence. Sexuality gave me a bitter taste in my mouth. There was Aids around and the possibility that you might get pregnant. A lot of girls when I was 15 did. There were so many who were having babies that my school had a creche for them. Today maybe I envy them a bit; they’re the mothers of children who are 10, 11 years old and they have that to treasure.”
Lance Bass
Lance would call other people gay to fit in: “When you’re 13, 14, you just go along with what the other people are doing. You just want to fit in. You want to make sure that your friends like you. So yeah, you’re going to crack jokes, you’re going to laugh along with it. And when you’re a teenager, you’re not really thinking, ‘Oh, I’m being a bully by laughing along with it.’ You think, ‘Okay, a bully’s just someone that can physically go and harm someone for being short, for being black, white, whatever’. But you know, you’re also a bully by condoning the behaviour and making the jokes along with them… I mean… it’s definitely to impress your friends… I think that’s the main reason people do bully, is to look cool in front of your friends. But you’ve just got to realise you’re not being cool at all. I mean, it’s the stupidest thing to do.”
Portia de Rossi
Portia struggled with her sexuality and was quizzed by a co-star about it: “I’d been on the show for about two months before we had to go to New York to do press, and Greg Germann and I were talking in the bar one night and he said, ‘There’s something about you I can’t quite put my finger on… Are you gay?’ Of course, I stammered and stuttered, and looked at the ground and went, ‘Uh… uh… uh… maybe, I don’t know. I think so. I’m not sure.’ He looked at me and said, ‘Have you struggled with it…?’ That was so profound.”
Ricky Martin
Ricky used to bully other gay people because he couldn’t come to terms with being gay himself: “I think you know, you feel attraction, you feel a chemistry. It’s not like you know you’re in love with a guy, but you feel a chemistry. Obviously that’s not what you’re supposed to be feeling, that’s not right. Your church says it’s wrong. You’re 12 years old and a rock and roll star and you have to do whatever it takes to call the attention of the girls. Other than that, you’re a f**got. As an adult, it’s confusing at times, imagine when you’re struggling with all those emotions when you’re 12.”
Wentworth Miller
Wentworth tried to kill himself as a teenager because he couldn’t cope: “The first time i tried to kill myself I was 15, I waited until my family were away for the weekend and I was alone in the house and I swallowed a bottle of pills.”
